The Cycle of Growth
It was 2002, and I received the call from Dr. Carroll Rinehart.
"Rinehart here... we're having coffee."
I knew who Carroll was and I was intrigued to be receiving a call from this legendary educator. A contemporary of Fred Rogers, a Lowell Scholar, the Co-Founder of the OMA Foundation, the former Director of Elementary School Music for TUSD, prolific author, and former professor of music education at the University of Arizona. Carroll and I knew of each other, and while I was the Associate Director of Bands at the University of Arizona, the then "retired" Dr. Rinehart hadn't showed any interest in connecting with me. To be fair, I had not showed any interest in connecting with him.
Little did I know that this one cup of coffee would lead to one of most life-changing mentors.
For 14 years, until his passing, Carroll would have a life lasting impact on how I think, connect and create.
Over the years we created and learned together. One of the foundational concepts he shared with me was his Cycle of Growth. I find it applies to any aspect of learning.
We usually think of affirmation as affirming others, and while this is important, I suggest you also think of affirmation as affirming yourself. We can all do a better job of affirming others and ourselves in many ways, including but not limited to the following:
- Positive words; authentic words we speak to someone and ourselves.
- Facial gestures; one of the most empowering ways as a gesture, much like a picture, can say many things.
- Acts of Service; doing something for someone without them asking for help.
- Quality Time; spending time with someone, regardless of what you are doing together.
When affirmation exists, there is a much better chance of trust existing. Trust is a state of being, whereas affirmation is an action. Trust is a spectrum and it builds over time. Think of each person you know as having an internal "Trust Bank Account".
- Trust can be grown with many strategies including, but not limited to the following:
- Asking great questions.
- Allowing enough time for an authentic response.
- Using physical gestures which are open in shape.
When the state of trust exists, there is a much better chance for positive risk to take place. Risk with your ideas and time are primarily what I'm talking about. For example:
- Writing down your ideas.
- Talking to people who can help you make your ideas become a reality.
- Spending extra time creating ways to make your ideas a reality.
Sometimes people are afraid of going after their big ideas because they don't want to fail. However, when we think about it, we will miss out on 100% of the ideas we never go after. Also, keep in mind that the greatest of us have failed many times. What we as adults call "Failure" is actually part of the learning process.
This may seem odd, but I encourage you to embrace BOTH "failure" and "work ethic." Keep in mind that risk is both a state of mind and an action.
While many see growth as an action, I see it more as a state of being. For example, if we see growth as an ongoing process, as compared to an event, we can always be learning.
Know that affirmation leads to trust, which leads to risk, which sets us up for profound growth, as individuals and as organizations.
WRAPPING IT UP
Carroll was fond of saying, "It is only at the precarious edge of the unknown where growth happens." I have continued his work in many areas and I have made a slight adjustment to this...
"It is only at the precarious edge of the unknown where the profound happens."
Seek the unknown... Seek better questions... Seek your best self